“Are advanced practitioners allowed to have personal problems? As Buddhism is absorbed into western culture, there is growing unease … about the fact that, even after many years of meditative practice, they still experience the whole range of emotions, confusion, suffering, and grief that are associated with the conduct of personal relationships in a world of impermanence. … My suggestion … is that this arises from misunderstanding what the Buddha actually taught.”
David Brazier. (2001). The feeling Buddha: a Buddhist psychology of character, adversity, and passion. London: Robinson, p. 50. Brazier was for many years a monk in Asia, obtained a PhD in psychology, and now works as teacher, psychotherapist, and author in England.