After yesterday’s stirring excursion (see post) I want to look at it again and again: to reflect, to ruminate, and to make sense of it. “It is not enough to have the experience of … Death, Eros, and Birth. We must make the experience conscious. Only in that way do we make meaning known to ourselves and others” (Pearson, p. 53).
Yesterday’s floating-in-blue-water images continue to stay in my awareness, along with my lost friend’s words to me. For the first time I see our meeting-then-parting not as an unfair tragedy, not as legacy of early childhood abandonment (when mother and sister and then father died), but as part of the unavoidable quest to become fully human.
There are many ways to resist change throughout adult life…. Apart from the pathological effects of trauma and abuse, most resistance has to do with fantasies about how the world and others should treat us. It is rooted in ideals―for perfection, beauty, love, security―that turn into … suffering or negativity, when they are held to tightly or are too exaggerated and grandiose.
Great expectations, even our most humane visions for the future, can throw us off balance and become a barrier to development when we regard them as more important than what stands before us (Young-Eisendrath, p. 108).
sources: Pearson, C. (1991). Awakening the heroes within. New York: HarperCollins; Young-Eisendrath, E. (1996). The resilient spirit. Cambridge, MA: Da Capo Press. With a bow to C.G. Jung, Joseph Campbell, and Reg Harris, among many.