“Some people can be very compassionate to others but are exceptionally harsh with themselves. One of the qualities that you can develop … is a sense of great compassion for yourself. When you visit the wounds within the temple of memory, you should not blame yourself for making mistakes that you greatly regret. Sometimes you have grown unexpectedly through these mistakes.
“Frequently, in a journey of a soul, the most precious moments are the mistakes. They have brought you to a place that you would otherwise have avoided. You should bring a compassionate mindfulness to your mistakes and wounds. …
“When you forgive yourself, the inner wounds begin to heal. You come in out of the exile of hurt into the joy of inner belonging. The art of integration is very precious. You have to trust your deeper, inner voice to know which places you need to visit.”
John O’Donohue. (1997). Anam cara: a book of Celtic wisdom. New York: Harper Perennial, p. 183.
come in out of exile