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The words holy, health, healing, and wholeness have common roots in Old English. We know intuitively that they’re connected: that our body is holy ground, that we continually wish to heal from various injuries, and that there’s a wholeness comprising body, mind, and spirit. “We all stand in need of healing,” writes Esther de Waal–

For most of us it is a most urgent and ever-present reality in our lives, one we may perhaps try to bury or neglect but which, if we are honest with ourselves, we find we cannot ignore. We all know also that unless we attend to our inner conflicts and contradictions, not only will we find ourselves torn apart by our inner division but also we shall very likely inflict wounds on those around us.

pleasingI’ve been wrestling with a significant work-related decision for a while. It has to do with being honest, with truly caring for myself, and the fear that the necessary decision may displease certain people. When I explained this to a co-worker last night she said, simply: “Sounds as if you’ve already decided.” And yet … I hesitate and agonize.

source: De Waal, E. (1997). Living with contradiction. Harrisburg, PA: Morehouse Pulishing, p.10. image: http://www.psychologytoday.com

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  1. It takes courage to speak out honestly…I believe we do others a disservice by not doing this…and we may find, that in the long run, it wasn’t as hard as we thought…and people may respond differently than we originally thought they would.
    Keep in mind, as well, that until we act, we usually are carrying this around with us in our minds, but once we act, we are freed from those thoughts.
    ….at least this is what I’ve found from my personal experiences.

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